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"I am here for a purpose and that purpose is to grow into a mountain, not shrink to a grain of sand.
Henceforth will I apply ALL my efforts to become the highest mountain of all
and I will strain my potential until it cries for mercy."   ~Og Mandino

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Thursday, July 29, 2010

Characteristics of Success- from New York City

Hi Everyone-

I sure missed you all while on vacation! Happy to be back! While in NYC I attended a powerful dance event with some of the top choreographers in the US. Naturally, it attracted the serious and talented next generation of dancers. Listening to the choreographers and observing the dancers I identified 7 characteristics found in the most successful that can benefit the rest of us in business, careers, or just going after a goal. Here they are in no particular order:

Enthusiastic Approach-
Top notch dancers take on training enthusiastically. They recognize an opportunity and go after it. This is no easy art form with long hours of training, aching muscles and joints, etc. The best eliminate excuses as an option. This has a lot to do with passion. If you are passionate about what you do the passion drives you.

Hard Work Ethic for Building Skills-
The best dancers are willing to experience growing pains, discomfort in learning new awkward ways to move their body, and pay their dues with long hours of training. What are you willing to commit to fully? What skill will provide the greatest positive growth for you even if you initially experience discomfort and/ or awkwardness that leads to strength, expertise, or new results?

Listen to Advice-
Growing dancers understand that critiques are for the purpose of improvement not a personal insult. They eagerly listen to advice of those with more experience with an open mind then choose how/ if to use it.

Stay Authentic-
Grow in your areas of passion and strengths. Newer dancers often enthusiastically try out many different styles and approaches to dance. While doing so they may mimic dancers or teachers they admire. When you admire something in someone it is often a reflection of a part of you that may or may not have emerged yet. As the dancer develops they learn their strengths, what they like and dislike, and who they are as an artist. In addition, they stay true to the music and the vision of the choreographer. Trying things on will help you gain experience which leads to confidence, it helps discern who you are, and present your authentic self which stands out in a crowd. Resist the temptation to play it safe by presenting a watered down version in order to fit in. How are you fully sharing/ expressing who you are in your work and play? How are you being authentic to your company? Being authentic makes life easier, more fun, and exciting!

Leverage What You Have-
To be authentic learn what your gifts are and how to leverage them to set yourself apart from others. My daughter is tall and slender. One of the choreographers suggested she learn to use that length to her advantage. As an example, he suggested learning to get lower than the shortest person in the room to create long extended lines. How can you use what you already have going for you in a way that will set you apart from others?

Balance- A dancer that is all technique or all performance is not the same as the exceptional dancer who is well balanced. Do not take your mission so lightly or too seriously that you miss out on experiencing the joy balance has to offer. When you are all business, career, goal-minded, etc. you miss out on the connection with your customers, clients, family, etc. And when you are focused all on putting on a show or having fun you equally may feel a void for not stepping into the vastness of your abilities.

Takes Risks-
The exquisite dancer has leather skin. They have made themselves vulnerable at times to try new things, hear criticism in front of others, present a piece of themselves in their own choreography, faced rejection, been injured, etc. But the more they have put themselves out there the more they experience golden moments and success. Taking chances leads to the knowledge, experience, and skills needed to succeed and have a sense of fulfillment.

Review the above and see what speaks to you the most. What do you want to work on? Put the wheels in motion and leap your way into experiencing just how amazing you really are. We are all capable of so much more… Starting Now!   

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Wednesday, July 7, 2010

How to Get Motivated

Lately I have been hearing grumbles of people feeling unmotivated to do anything. Maybe it's the summer heat, or rainy days, or the long days of summer, or just the thought of the year being halfway over already. I know people are in a slump when the idea of positive people and positive thinking just gets on their every nerve! So how do you motivate yourself out of a slump when you just are not in the mood? Here's how:

~ Rejuvenate- Unmotivation can come from exhaustion. Take some time off... a morning, a day, a weekend, a week... whatever it takes. Relax. Do something you love. Get a full night of sleep. Eat energy rejuvenating foods. Drink plenty of water.

~ Be Aware of How You are Effected by External Circumstances- Is the heat or the rainy days bringing you down? Counter the circumstances with whatever you can do to uplift your spirits: fans, a cool soak, lighting, uplifting music, great smelling candles, etc. to shift your attitude. What if you are stuck with grumpy people? Call up someone upbeat, introduce yourself to someone you admire, connect in a positive community online. I maintain a file called "get an uplift' of funny things people have sent me that I can go to at any time to have a laugh. If you are stuck in an environment that is bringing you down do what you can to make a change.  

~ Get Your Head in the Game- Now that you are feeling better physically it is time to feel better mentally. Dr Robert Schuller said that, "It takes but one positive thought when given a chance to survive and thrive to overpower an entire army of negative thoughts."

-  What sabotaging thoughts are repeating in your mind? Write them down. Choose right now  the one positive thought you will honor and give the opportunity to thrive in order to see how it may change your results. Use this positive thought to overpower any negative thought that arises.

-  Choose one goal you can get excited about and three very small actions you know you can take to get back on track.

-  Read or call someone with experience to gain more knowledge. This can provide you with more ideas and be motivating.

-  Set up a visual effect that keeps you excited--- a big wall calendar that shows your daily progress, a vision board of what you will gain, etc.

-  List ten things that you have going for you! If you can not finish the list ask someone close to you for their help.

Choose any of these actions above to help get your head in the game.

~ Commit to Action- Look at your three actions. Choose where to begin. Focus on completion of a small step. Then move to the next and the next. If you get excited to do more, do it! 

We are all capable of so much more. Stay away from comparing yourself to others. We all experience those tough moments. It is how we choose to handle them that makes all the difference. Get excited about the people and experiences you have ahead of you and how they can create the life you keep thinking about... Starting Now!     

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